Parenting With Connection: 5 Powerful Lessons From Dr. Becky Kennedy

At Palm Beach Behavioral Health & Wellness, we’re inspired by the work of Dr. Becky Kennedy (@drbeckyatgoodinside), a clinical psychologist whose approach to parenting emphasizes connection over perfection. Grounded in attachment theory and nervous system science, Dr. Becky’s message is simple: parenting isn’t about always getting it right - it’s about building a strong, loving relationship with your child.

Here are five of our favorite Dr. Becky quotes and how they can transform your parenting in practice:

1. “Good parents don’t get it right all the time. They repair when they get it wrong.”

Every parent loses patience sometimes. What matters most is how we respond afterward. Repairing after mistakes teaches children that love is resilient. Saying something like, “I got frustrated, and I wish I hadn’t yelled,” models accountability, empathy, and emotional safety.

2. “Your child isn’t giving you a hard time. Your child is having a hard time.”

Shifting perspective from defiance to distress changes the way we respond. When children act out, curiosity - asking “What’s feeling too big for my child right now?” - can replace shame with regulation. This approach helps children manage big emotions while strengthening the parent-child bond.

3. “You can be kind and firm at the same time. That’s what true authority looks like.”

Setting boundaries doesn’t mean being harsh - it means being loving and consistent. A calm, firm statement like, “I won’t let you hit,” communicates both care and authority. This balance builds trust, emotional maturity, and a sense of safety for your child.

4. “The most regulated nervous system in the room always wins.”

Children learn emotional regulation by watching us. Before guiding their feelings, take a moment to steady your own: try a slow exhale, a grounding touch, or a softer tone. Your calm presence teaches your child that emotions are manageable and that safety is constant.

5. “You can’t show up as a grounded parent if you’re running on empty.”

Parenting is relational work that requires energy. Meeting your own needs for rest, support, and joy isn’t selfish - it’s essential. You can’t nurture connection from an empty cup, so self-care strengthens both you and your child.

Lead With Compassion and Connection

Parenting isn’t about perfection - it’s about connection. By embracing repair, curiosity, and empathy, you foster emotional growth, trust, and resilience in your child. Remember: you and your child are both good inside.

At PBBHW, we help parents and families strengthen relationships and navigate challenges with compassion, science-backed strategies, and personalized support.